tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12934803.post5348204861838846783..comments2023-12-22T00:26:36.056-08:00Comments on The Variegated Sky™: Emotional Hara-kiriAparna Gangulyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08145595106647499958noreply@blogger.comBlogger29125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12934803.post-43307369013882765112008-03-27T00:05:00.000-07:002008-03-27T00:05:00.000-07:00"I've found almost everything ever written about l..."I've found almost everything ever written about love to be true. Shakespeare said "Journeys end in lovers meeting." What an extraordinary thought. Personally, I have not experienced anything remotely close to that, but I am more than willing to believe Shakespeare had. I suppose I think about love more than anyone really should. I am constantly amazed by its sheer power to alter and define our lives. It was Shakespeare who also said "love is blind". Now that is something I know to be true. For some quite inexplicably, love fades; for others love is simply lost. But then of course love can also be found, even if just for the night. And then, there's another kind of love: the cruelest kind. The one that almost kills its victims. Its called unrequited love. Of that I am an expert. Most love stories are about people who fall in love with each other. But what about the rest of us? What about our stories, those of us who fall in love alone? We are the victims of the one sided affair. We are the cursed of the loved ones. We are the unloved ones, the walking wounded. The handicapped without the advantage of a great parking space! Yes, you are looking at one such individual. And I have willingly loved that man for over three miserable years! The absolute worst years of my life! The worst Christmas', the worst Birthday's, New Years Eve's brought in by tears and valium. These years that I have been in love have been the darkest days of my life. All because I've been cursed by being in love with a man who does not and will not love me back. Oh god, just the sight of him! Heart pounding! Throat thickening! Absolutely can't swallow! All the usual symptoms."Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12934803.post-63239370591810388132008-03-26T06:36:00.000-07:002008-03-26T06:36:00.000-07:00tht was a very well written post!tht was a very well written post!Matangi Mawleyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17668435869587454508noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12934803.post-29322104828799288292008-03-22T10:25:00.000-07:002008-03-22T10:25:00.000-07:00@atrayeeKeep stumbling.. u never know what u might...@atrayee<BR/>Keep stumbling.. u never know what u might come across :)Aparna Gangulyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08145595106647499958noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12934803.post-8642226413146236862008-03-22T10:24:00.000-07:002008-03-22T10:24:00.000-07:00@rOhitGee..Thanks :)@rOhit<BR/>Gee..Thanks :)Aparna Gangulyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08145595106647499958noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12934803.post-51489198482821590962008-03-22T10:23:00.001-07:002008-03-22T10:23:00.001-07:00@Bad WulfWhy.. I 'd never know ...@Bad Wulf<BR/>Why.. I 'd never know ...Aparna Gangulyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08145595106647499958noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12934803.post-80710133358543348792008-03-22T10:23:00.000-07:002008-03-22T10:23:00.000-07:00@saikatheh heh.. sorry.. I'll give u a call someti...@saikat<BR/>heh heh.. sorry.. I'll give u a call sometime soon to update u. Btw, DIM became an omelet yesterday :DAparna Gangulyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08145595106647499958noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12934803.post-4537314613340080092008-03-22T00:23:00.000-07:002008-03-22T00:23:00.000-07:00nice post....keep showing the light and come onlin...nice post....keep showing the light and come online once in a while *mad*<BR/><BR/>ciao..tcAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12934803.post-33569751124893329352008-03-20T21:43:00.000-07:002008-03-20T21:43:00.000-07:00You Continue To Amaze Me -Bad WulfYou Continue To Amaze Me <BR/><BR/>-Bad WulfAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12934803.post-84498906113063388582008-03-20T10:53:00.000-07:002008-03-20T10:53:00.000-07:00@laviOops! Sorry, my mistake. I had it saved as a ...@lavi<BR/>Oops! Sorry, my mistake. I had it saved as a draft for a while and changed the date to display the day I published it and put 04/16/2008 instead of 03/16/2008. Thanks for pointing out. It's weird, yeah :DAparna Gangulyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08145595106647499958noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12934803.post-35756039648983677202008-03-20T10:46:00.000-07:002008-03-20T10:46:00.000-07:00nice blog....but suddenly noticed that this blog i...nice blog....<BR/><BR/>but suddenly noticed that this blog is dated april 16th 2008 :D how is that possible?????????Sapadu to random musings.😁https://www.blogger.com/profile/06402383770697972125noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12934803.post-32481596247049173932008-03-19T10:24:00.000-07:002008-03-19T10:24:00.000-07:00I just stumbled across your blog and realised this...I just stumbled across your blog and realised this is just what I wanted to hear. Thank you!!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12934803.post-33621916728299087702008-03-19T08:09:00.000-07:002008-03-19T08:09:00.000-07:00Well, no 'gyaan' from my side. You've already rece...Well, no 'gyaan' from my side. You've already received many.<BR/><BR/>About the post I'd just say-<BR/><B>Profound and very true thoughts!</B><BR/><BR/>Nice Blog! :)kyamaloomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08323885272939282430noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12934803.post-501541220595217502008-03-18T23:58:00.000-07:002008-03-18T23:58:00.000-07:00Loved the quote in your gtalk status!Loved the quote in your gtalk status!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00888827675798470354noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12934803.post-14153284417653018852008-03-18T22:28:00.000-07:002008-03-18T22:28:00.000-07:00"My interest is in the future because I am going t..."My interest is in the future because I am going to spend the rest of my life there."<BR/><BR/>Makes perfect sense!!!Samhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06394200137631383145noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12934803.post-68101630937544264212008-03-18T20:52:00.000-07:002008-03-18T20:52:00.000-07:00@Munmun Thank you for your continuing patronage. I...@Munmun <BR/>Thank you for your continuing patronage. If even one person could read and identify with the post, I'd have felt that my words have not been a waste. Thanks for being the first person to say so. I really appreciate your courage and strength to own up to it. Also, I'd like to quote my current gtalk status message here: <I>"My interest is in the future because I am going to spend the rest of my life there."</I> Wish you all the best.Aparna Gangulyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08145595106647499958noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12934803.post-5716594371458306602008-03-18T20:47:00.000-07:002008-03-18T20:47:00.000-07:00@Bubbles I couldn't have said it better: i think i...@Bubbles <BR/>I couldn't have said it better: <I>i think i was lucky to have had the experiences that i did... it set me off on a journey of becoming the person that i want to be</I><BR/>That's the only way to look at it. Wish more people were like you. One of my friends has gone into perpetual mourning after his break-up; wish I could tell him how fortunate he is to be able to begin afresh.Aparna Gangulyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08145595106647499958noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12934803.post-27683379104286547412008-03-18T20:44:00.000-07:002008-03-18T20:44:00.000-07:00@SamHmm. Valid point. I agree.@Sam<BR/>Hmm. Valid point. I agree.Aparna Gangulyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08145595106647499958noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12934803.post-14938773588362729502008-03-18T20:43:00.000-07:002008-03-18T20:43:00.000-07:00@candid diarySometimes, they need help to come out...@candid diary<BR/>Sometimes, they need help to come out. Thanks for your appreciation :)Aparna Gangulyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08145595106647499958noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12934803.post-19009271954570875722008-03-18T20:42:00.000-07:002008-03-18T20:42:00.000-07:00@zoxclebYou bet ! Seen a lot and heard about quite...@zoxcleb<BR/>You bet ! Seen a lot and heard about quite a few :DAparna Gangulyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08145595106647499958noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12934803.post-76208372618794349032008-03-18T20:41:00.000-07:002008-03-18T20:41:00.000-07:00@Aditya Bingo ! You have hit the bull's eye with "...@Aditya <BR/>Bingo ! You have hit the bull's eye with "whatever= more compatible". The concept of 'the one' is over-hyped. What we are truly seeking is only a way to love ourselves more. A relation should be valued for not what it gives us, but what it helps us become. Every person we come across transforms us in some way- even a beggar on the street. (In fact, I'm thinking of the man at Park Street station who creates mesmerizing music with his guitar)<BR/><BR/>My take on a successful relation is that which helps us become the best we can be (reflected more than once in my previous posts) And that can be anyone: a teacher, a parent, a friend or a lover. <BR/><BR/>It is very difficult to say how or why we fall in love. In fact, I doubt its existence in the real world, though the manifestations are many. We can feel it like the invisible wind blowing on our face, gamboling with our hair- sometimes gentle and teasing, at times aggressively obsessive or simply irritating.<BR/><BR/>If I ask you how big is the universe, you'd probably say "infinite", though it's not a proven fact. It's what you believe (from theories etc). Love is like that. You believe that you are loved or in love with someone. If you are fortunate, your belief strengthens with time, if you are not-so-fortunate you are proven wrong. But there's nothing to be ashamed of it then. <BR/><BR/>Though I speak with detachment, I know it would have been difficult for me to cope with such an emotional crisis too. But it simply pains me to see that a girl about my age, who deserves happiness (I believe everyone does) is weeping away her prime years and wasting the time that will never come back. I have ranted for long. Now' I'll drink some water :DAparna Gangulyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08145595106647499958noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12934803.post-44911784173072344042008-03-18T20:13:00.000-07:002008-03-18T20:13:00.000-07:00@Still Searching :) Yeah, I wouldn't be dressed li...@Still Searching <BR/>:) Yeah, I wouldn't be dressed like an Eskimo in India for sure :D It was cold in Boston this winter.Aparna Gangulyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08145595106647499958noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12934803.post-16624789400401731112008-03-18T12:32:00.000-07:002008-03-18T12:32:00.000-07:00Haha! Not that I'm going through a break-up, but t...Haha! Not that I'm going through a break-up, but this is jst what I needed to hear, and have been telling myself these past few days! <BR/><BR/>Some nice changes in your blog template.. btw, you know the slideshow? I instantly knew the last one was taken in the US, even though there is nothing in the background to suggest I recognize Boston... its just the way you look and dress has changed, just a wee bit! :))Still Searchinghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16771129066300765626noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12934803.post-58111192638787748472008-03-18T07:57:00.000-07:002008-03-18T07:57:00.000-07:00Very well written.I guess quite a few would be abl...Very well written.<BR/><BR/>I guess quite a few would be able to talk a bit about this subject (though ideally they would not have wished for it). <BR/><BR/>I guess coming out of a breakup is a touch easier when it was a relationship gone bad, or if the other person was behaving in an unacceptable way consistently. But if, one wanted the relationship to continue, and still it had to end, it does become more difficult.<BR/><BR/>"Is it then the sunken cost, the time and emotion we have invested in a certain relation, that manacles us from letting go?"<BR/><BR/>IMHO yes, the sunken cost in terms of emotions, is what makes it difficult from letting go, especially it was the second case of one wanting the relationship to go on.<BR/><BR/>"And more often than not, it is owing to the silly superstition that you secretly nurture: you will never find someone better/ bigger/richer.. whatever."<BR/><BR/>You put it across perfectly. :-). But what if, whatever == more compatible?<BR/><BR/>At the end of it, if the person is a strong character, (s)he would bounce back sooner than later.<BR/><BR/>Wishing your friend more happier and better times ahead.<BR/><BR/>p.s. Sticky post?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12934803.post-70632965903425173772008-03-17T18:52:00.000-07:002008-03-17T18:52:00.000-07:00spoken like someone with true experience....spoken like someone with true experience....zoxclebhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18318804521785296544noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12934803.post-54785520944916711042008-03-17T09:04:00.000-07:002008-03-17T09:04:00.000-07:00Hello. This post is likeable, and your blog is ver...Hello. This post is likeable, and your blog is very interesting, congratulations :-). I will add in my blogroll =). If possible gives a last there on my blog, it is about the <A HREF="http://camera-fotografica-digital.blogspot.com" REL="nofollow">Câmera Digital</A>, I hope you enjoy. The address is http://camera-fotografica-digital.blogspot.com. A hug.<A HREF="7783006453" REL="nofollow"></A>Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com