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Sunday, April 23, 2006

~Nothing Else Matters~

People have often asked me what does my present status message mean...
And I say "~Nothing Else Matters~ as in nothing else matters more than my CHOOSING to be happy"

I know it hurts..
u know it hurts ..
when your convictions fall apart..
when your beliefs turn to mere fallacy
and one day you wake up to find someone you thought u knew ..is only a stranger...

No, this is not a reiteration of a post I had scripted a few days back...and then deleted it..

It's a new page...written in a completely different frame of mind...

Nearly all of us know- how painful it is to realise that something u thought could last for an eternity is actually so short lived...

U make efforts to cling to it maybe..

U try to change urself...thinking u r at fault..

But then it gets exhaustive..
U want to be urself..
U want to live..to breath..to be happy...

U blame urself..a lot of other factors...
Completely non-existent elements..sometimes..

But at the end..u r still clueless....

Then u realise.. bit by bit..what will be..will be...

And the truism"Whatever happens..happens for good..." assumes more meaning than u ever acknowldeged before..

All those souls out there..who are searching for happiness just like me..
Let me tell u something today..what u have known all along..but might have forgotten for a while..

No one can give u the happiness u want..except YOURSELF

True.."There's a treasure everywhere"..but more than anywhere else...in our hearts...

44 comments:

zoxcleb said...

Que sera, sera
Whatever will be, will be
The future's not ours to see
Que sera, sera
What will be, will be


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Open mind for a different view
and nothing else matters

never cared for what they say
never cared for games they play
never cared for what they do
never cared for what they know
and I know

So close, no matter how far
Couldn't be much more from the heart
Forever trusting who we are
No, nothing else matters

Omkar said...

U have penned down my thoughts! I liked ur blog.

AakASH!!! said...

Satya Vachan!

pdey said...

may be thats the only truth that'll survive..
... i think the same, but fail to feel.. :(

Prasoon said...

am speechless reading what you've scribbled..

but - there are some people who can get you happiness - atleast for a moment but yes, people so special can make you really happy with what they do.. may be thats becuase you have defined them to be special and so, anything small they do, we are filled with joy and yes, may be that the line [No one can give u the happiness u want..except YOURSELF] still holds good.

i still remember that post you had written long back n deleted - it was hard and the words are still here
one day you wake up to find someone you thought u knew ..is only a stranger...
it really hurts, convictions do fall apart and beliefs, yes, hell yes - they turn to be mere fallacy.

Aparna Kar said...

@prasoon
Nothing is absolute in this world..
It's all relativity.
And an object assumes a value u assign to it...
nothing more ,nothing less..

but the greater reality(what others think..n hence a majority)might be something else..

it's this conflict that raises doubts..
this makes u seek an answer..
and while u converse with someone else..eventually u get to know things u wanted to ask urself...

Aparna Kar said...

@pdey
yes..it will survive..coz it is a hard earned lesson..the toughest of all actually..to realise-No matter what..Life goes on

Aparna Kar said...

@aakash
Guruji..who knows better than thou :)

Aparna Kar said...

@omkar
glad u think so..
this is ur first comment I guess
keep visiting...:)

Aparna Kar said...

@zoxcleb
Thanks GPS...clubbed together two songs I see..
the later is by metallica..by whom is the former?

Praveen said...

u r da treasure :D

Aparna Kar said...

Hey friends..
who have been with me during my not-so-long blogging career..

Here's something dedicated to u...

My blog has been quoted at the following site...

http://tripurainfo.com/

Check it out and let me know ur feedback...

Will eagerly await ur comments:)

(And yeah ..a special thanks to Mr.Manas Pal who is a Journalist with Times Of India..and an awesome writer himself....who judged my blog to be worthy enough to be quoted in that space)

Anonymous said...

i thnk the thoughts contained r universal...... everyone goes thru these emotions once in thier life n comes to a realisation of a lifetime........bt we never learn from our mistakes....n often repeat them esp where emotions r concerned as they r very deceitful n they'll never let us learn...... tht u cn express them so well is great ofcourse


SHANE CHATTERJEE

AakASH!!! said...

Great to know you are being published on tripurainfo. :)
Way to go Aparna!

zoxcleb said...

the first song is sung by Doris Day and is also in the movie The Man Who Knew Too Much! (Alfred Hitchcock)

Aparna Kar said...

@zoxcleb
I see...:)

Aparna Kar said...

@aakash
sab aapki kripa hai Guruji:)

(Don't ask me to stop calling u that:p)

Aparna Kar said...

@shane
But..u have to learn..some day...

anyways thanks...
I am just an amateur...still learning to pen down my thoughts...

keep watching this space..a lot more to come...

Aparna Kar said...

@praveen

really?

and what do u have to say to those who had found "the treasure" and then lost it?

arnab said...

well, you know, shit happens and it stinks! and sometimes it may seem that we are programmed to be illogical, but it's okay... anyway this whole concept of "the one" is a bit overrated... so if he behaves like a stranger, maybe he really was one! you have already taken the first and the biggest step to overcome it -- you can talk about it :-) so just feel a little sorry, but not too much and don't be so melancholy and serious! you know, life is kind of like chess; you can see the best moves when you are not in the game... so just give it your best shot -- it doesn't have to be perfect ;-) anyway, it's late and i'm sleepy and talking crap... so good night and good luck!

ME-MOI-MYSELF said...

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amitabh said...

Mature thoughts. I will b waiting to see ur progress.

Aparna Kar said...

@MMM
Simply beautiful!!

specially those lines..
No one can take that which you do not have. And you do not have anything.

It reaffirmed my faith in humanity...
which had ,unfortunately,began to waver...

Aparna Kar said...

@arnab

thanks..
and no.. u don't talk crap when u r sleepy..
I suggest u post ur comments only when the conscious doesn't put an unneccesary censorship when the thoughts are lost in translation to a vendible package of expression...
when u r sleepy..and u speak only the truth..nothing but THE TRUTH...

:)

Aparna Kar said...

@amitabh

Thanks :)

zoxcleb said...

@MMM

wonderful post... really makes u think.

@amitabh

mature indeed.. and really different from the earlier ones. more discrete. yet more thematic.

zoxcleb said...

@aparna

you ought to see the movie too... :-)

Aparna.G said...

Looks like every1 has already said what I would have liked to say, all i leave with now is a dialog from a movie, 'Upar wala jab bhi deta hain, to chappad phaad ke deta hain' - & sometimes, when things hit so hard, lots of other things fall in place..

Its a beautiful life! Enjoy madi!

saurabh said...

Juz One Word" Serendipity"

lost said...

Turn the Page

Aparna Kar said...

@Aparna.G
In fact I had been waiting for ur comment...
wanted to know a woman's point of view...
And yes Aparna..I am trying to enjoy life...

Coz the only time I have got is -NOW

Aparna Kar said...

@Saurabh

U think it's "kismet" or "chance"?

I think it was me,my choice -all the time

But every things said and done..I still wonder..what could be that ONE THING I could have done so that things would have been different..

Aparna Kar said...

@lost

Trying to..
but not that easy...

Nitesh said...

aparna i just happened to come across ur blog and dont know what to say about this post because this is what has happened to me and i'm just not able to overcome.the girl who is my life has become a stranger now.but then what matters? with whom i saw my life has gone and the worst part is that both love each other but now its too late for her.i'm still clueless why this happened.even she says whatevr happens is for good . but how can one live without the most dearest thing .

saurabh said...

yes its the choices that we make

Aparna Kar said...

@Nitesh
They say..'Laugh and the world laughs with u..cry and u cry alone..'
But I don't think it's true..look around u..u'll find someone who was in a predicament worse than u...
Try to comfort him/her..u will forget ur own sorrows..

And who says u have to forget her..???
U don't need to..
just remember the wonderful time u spent together and feel glad that it happened to u..instead of being sad about the fact that it's over..

And more thing...

Life's toughest lesson is..
realising...
that ..no matter what..
Life goes on...

Aparna Kar said...

@saurabh

When u start taking responsibilities...
it begins to hurt less :)

Nitesh said...

but how do one live and what happens when the only thing in life u ever wanted was her. and what hurts more is she takes a decision on her own which affects both and bcos she doesnt want to hurt her parents anymore. u r right life goes on but life is not the same , the smile is gone and the happiness? what about those dreams which were alive just a few days back? i'm sorry if i'm bugging you but its just that i'm trying to find answers. why is that one is not able to sleep , eat or do. i gave up so many things for her and i know she didnot betrayed its just that she sacrifice for her parents which makes it more tough for me.there r so many unanswered why in this life?

Anonymous said...

true... the hardest thing, which we all know but cant accept... is that "Life goes ON" and nothing u do will change anything...

U r good... am facing a similar situation.. dont know u ... but would like to...

CHEERS !!!!

chandan said...

Nice piece... I like it...will follow up your thoughts for a while...

What do u say...will u feel the same after a year as well...or may be you wont! Lets wait n watch...

Aparna Kar said...

@chandan

No ..I don't think so..

A year ago when I started this blog I had no idea I would post something like this..

It was a different world altogether..

A care-free girl with a very casual attitude..with her only concern to live for the moment..

Just one year..and so many things have changed...

If I continue my blog till next year. I hope..I sincerely hope it won't be a lament..ever again..

But a loud laughter at my tears today...

sugandha said...

u rocc alwayss

Aparna Kar said...

@sugandha

Hey Sugu...thnx buddy...

Now I know why there is pain..

U get to know an aspect of ur own personality u were unfamiliar with..

And u get to know ur true frnds
:)

Am Not Who U Think I Am said...

its true wat u wrote .....whn i think abt the relationship btween me and my brother...it cud hav been a lot better....i always wished...if given a chance to relive those days once again ...am gonna try harder..coz am just lost without him...i read ur post abt ur brother...its good...i wonder i stumbled upon this particular post urs...whn i lost everything