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Tuesday, October 03, 2006

Pyaar Ke Side Effects

This was the season's craziest love story... and I found it very real at times. Specially when the girl gets total senti in the middle of a cricket match, where India could be winning and switches the TV off to propose to her guy. Definitely, such incidents spell D-I-S-A-S-T-E-R.

It is often said that opposites attract... but can they be together too?
Flings are easy. But when it comes to "the rest of our lives", I believe, girls feel as shaky as guys to commit .

So, when you are waiting to pop the question, or thinking whether to say "YES, I DO"
it's always better to consider a few things...

# You might be as different as chalk and cheese, but do you respect each other and yourselves for whatever you are?

# No matter, how different you are professionally or otherwise..do u share at least some areas of interest? Coz it is very important that u have some moments to treasure that u have spent together.
You could be movie buffs and love to watch movies together. Voracious readers could lend each other your favourite books. If you are musical you could learn to play an instrument together or join the salsa classes. The more adventurous kinds could go camping out or hit the road...

# The sole reason why we want to be in a relation is, according to me, to be happier than we are when we are single..otherwise what's the point?
If love makes you miserable, it isn't love..
It is a facade.

Do u need a relationship tag just for the heck of it?
It is better to be single...Being single isn't a disease!
Look at the brighter side..you get to spend more time with your friends. You can spend hours shopping with your gal pals, and guys can hang out with their buddies at the bowling alleys, booze the weekend out or do anything fun without having to listen to that "U-don't-love-me-anymore" story.

# They say you should get married to a person whom you love talking to..coz when u grow old, that's the only thing u will love to do.
Talking doesn't mean giving weather reports.
I personally would prefer an interesting conversationalist. Someone with versatile interests, someone I can speak to and listen to..some one with whom I can have a dialogue with.
Check the word DIALOGUE. Communication is a two-way process. Someone who intimidates you for some reason or keeps you concerned that "I might not be able to say this" is not the one for you.
Come on! You wish to spend the rest of your life with him/her..and you are shit scared to talk?
What does companionship mean then?
Get back to stone age and adapt sign language..maybe THAT will reduce conflicts !!

# Lastly, believe in your intuition. It is the beginning that brings the end. If u feel something is not right, try to analyse what it is.
coz if u think this is getting more than just kuchi-koo-ing and popcorn and soda... u need to think again..coz he/she might be the one you have waiting all your life.
Someone who gives your life a deeper meaning...

There are a very few people in this world who are loved by those whom they love. To love someone you love is a gift..treasure it...

59 comments:

zoxcleb said...

wow.. so whose proposal brought abt this? :-)

Aparna Kar said...

GP!! U r sooooooooo imaginative.. I think I mentioned my inspiration..it's the movie!!

zoxcleb said...

but the movie could not have possibly brought abt such deep and strong thoughts! ;-)

saurabh said...

hmm... different perspectives, when ppl are same placeat same time they are happy, otherwise, out of site becomes out of mind as well..

Aparna Kar said...

@zoxcleb
Elementary my dear Watson
It's observation!
And a failed relation...maybe...

Vinay said...

So Aparna turns into a Love Guru!!!
Next time I am in Love, I know whom to call :-)

Aparna Kar said...

@saurabh
You mean- out of Sight, out of mind?

But I believe "Absence makes the heart grow fonder"

Geographical distance can't be a factor..the person who makes u feel complete can be anywhere in this world and yet be your source of strength.

Sometimes long-distance relations work great..and problems could actually arise when the space diminishes and the expectations reach an unrealistic level.
You might want your guy/gal to give you more time which might not always be possible for him/her.

We often make assumptions, and that is where things start going wrong.

And one more thing..before making any general pronouncement,check the basics..

Was the person ever committed to you?
Or was it just a feeling u had that THIS MIGHT work out...

Relationships can't be based on mere conjectures...
you need a lot more than just that!

Aparna Kar said...

@vinay
Oh sure!!
But I will have my consultation fees
Hee hee
Something like Hitch- The Date Doctor :)

sangramganguly said...

:)..excellent ..
a feature extraction yields me new terms..which are hardly used in defining relationships..and i liked it...
"conversationalist, companionship, facade, dialogue, sign language, intuition
nd gift...which encompasses everything in its broad spectrum."
oh yeah..also the concept of diminishing space... :)
btw....as GP suggested..the movie hd nothing to do with ur imaginative thinking...:)
its just a query u made to ur inner viable thinking domain space..
nice nice..
:)

Ankush said...

wonderful thoughts!! every word of what u have written is so true...

dc said...

hmm..interesting evaluation of relationships..well in life its very easy to discard something than accept something.Even in relationships this is true...me no grow on it but would like to agree on one thing that yes "communication" is the key in relationship..people communicate without saying anything.
For me the partner should have different interests and I should be able to share and show her what I like and should be able to appreciate what she likes...well unless and until she doesnt bring anything different in my life its no use...if that doesnt happen then today I am one lonely person and tomorrow we are two lonely people...what say??
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markiv said...

lemme make it a short n easy comment- a fantastic word, this LOVE...
2 vowels... 2 consonants... 2 fools!!!!!


wen am 40 there's no way id let a 20yr old decide who i am, or who i shld be wit.. n thts exactly wat id do if i "decided" rite now... let time play its game, n ill play mine.. n lets see who can convince the other!!!!

Viraat said...

One more thing I like to add with it..
In love, "The bad in us forgets the fear of rejection. The good in us is taken over, and we start getting worse than we have always have been."

" She should accept me the way I am", is what the ID makes us beleive. That is when we turn abusers.

Avishek said...

read ur post,like ur way of writtin...


but not agree wid u in some point

* I don't feel that u sud share same area of interest ....I feel ur priority sud b same in basic things of life ...

*u givin importance in talkin ..I think u mean it communication ?? right ??
cause sometime silence can communicate better than conversation....

and damn agree wid u in the point of bein single if u r happy in bein so....

wanna many things to mention ...
but have to work..:(


lastly u sud go for a realationship wen u find urself in our parner

Aparna Kar said...

@Avishek
I am not giving importance to ONLY talking.
I am ALSO giving importance to spoken conversation
There's nothing like being able to send messages across in a crowded room without uttering even a single word. The raised eyebrow, the expression of the eyes, reading each other's body language is a very crucial part of communication.

And yes, it is very very important to be able to read each other's silence too

Anonymous said...

I was so close to doing something life changing, but I didn't take the chance. I didn't know if it existed at all.
But she stood, right there in front of me, the facts were there. All I had to do was step forward. But I didn't.
Now left only to wonder and think of what was there, what could've been, and what never happened.

Aparna Kar said...

@viraat
I liked "The bad in us forgets the fear of rejection. The good in us is taken over, and we start getting worse than we have always have been."
The greatest mistake we make is when familiarity engenders a "FOR GRANTED" attitude... this is what brings a vast chasm and deepens it beyond the extent that can be bridged...

saurabh said...

@aparna: You are right, we can not base our decisions on the basis of assumptions but sometimes even though the person you feel like being commited to does not say that he/she is committed to you in words but does enough to let you know that he/she is.

If everything was to be said explicitly in this world, then silence will not hold any meaning.

Love is a feeling which is not bounded by geographical distances,what matters is the distance b/w the hearts.

One day i may summon the courage to ask the person i like, the eternal question,"will you be with me , forever and ever ?" but until that moment comes i still believe that the relationship needs to be kept alive and we still need to reach out, to make the other person realize we are there, "otherwise it will become, another fling we had with someone" and this applicable to everyone in this world

-Saurabh

manoj said...

Bahot bada tha, fir bhi padha.

Anonymous said...

You have realised something which is generally thought by most of the married person, whether it be a woman or a man.... i suppose u r great n ur thinkings are even greater....u need a complement for this blog.... you know at some point of time u ll also fall in true love, or may be never...and let me tell u something dear that if u go on try n analyze if there is any truth in your love or not u ll waste ur time... so try to enjoy every moment with ur companion, whio ever it may be with lot of love..:p..... Huffffff... onek bole felechi......................................................................... By the way appu how can u think so deep....may i share ur variegated experiences right here, or u ll write that in ur next blog... ha ha ha...:P.. jokin

Ruchika said...

I like the question raised by you "Do you need a relationship tag just for the heck of it?".. in college one is 'not cool' if one doesn't have a boyfriend/girlfriend, and later if one is not married by a 'certain' age, then people start wondering whether there is something wrong with you! And this attitude is prevalent in everyone, not special to a certain sect of people.. it has to be changed..

Ruchika said...

I also just read your comment saying 'relationships cant be based on mere conjectures', which is sooo true.. and something I learnt from my past relationships.. which were incidentally long-distance and didn't work out for that reason.. and for many others of course! :-))

saurabh said...

@aparna lemme add one more thing, pyar ke side effects hamesha bure nahi hote.... acche bhi hote hain.. and i am jst feeling those side effects...... :) nice wale :)

Aparna Kar said...

"Have I Told You Lately that I love you?
Have I told you there's no one else above you?
Fill my heart with gladness, take away all my sadness,
Ease my troubles, that's what you do.

For the morning sun in all it's glory,
Meets the day with hope and comfort too,
You fill my life with laughter, somehow you make it better,
Ease my troubles, that's what you do...."


When Rod Stewart sang this song, he dedicated it to his "lovely" (second) wife Rachel Hunter, and was quoted saying that he'd rather have his p**** cut off than cheat on her.... He has been sued for divorce.
His present fiancée, model Penny Lancaster was his then-girlfriend when Rachael famously replaced her and became the face and body of Ultimo, a Scottish lingerie house.
ummm..makes any sense?

My idea wasn't to give u celebrity scoop of the man who owns one of the 400 Enzo Ferraris n is one of my fav soul singers...

What I am saying is... as u move ahead in life, you discover that THE ONE is an over-hyped concept.
And THE ONE u thought u can't leave without, is not that difficult to live without if he/she becomes difficult to live with.

It isn't wrong to ask for more love if u need it...
I am not prophesizing promiscuity, neither I intend to marry 7 times, but it is so difficult to know what u really want when u r not listening to ur inner voice.
When u let ur decisions be guided by external factors, it begins to weigh down heavily on u...
it is when u want to break free...

@markiv
"am 40 there's no way id let a 20yr old decide who i am, or who i shld be wit.. n thts exactly wat id do if i "decided" rite now"


But then u can't wait to be 40 to be sure that u really want to be wth the person u love right now..isn't it?

we all make some assumptions in love... some when proven true give us happiness unbound, some excruciating pain..but then it is how it is..
and we dream again.. hoping this time will be the right time..this time, together ,WE will make things right
Strange ..aren't we?
U bet!!!

saurabh said...

@aparna- A pragmatic answer and a pragmatic approach to boot i would say...

Be real Be Careful and Be Happy

saurabh said...

Oh BTW Pragmatic ans to boot means pragmatic ans to the core

Aparna Kar said...

@ruchika
Honestly yaar!!
When u r one of the most happening girls of ur college..u have this peer pressure to date the coolest dude available, with whom u might or might not be able to gel in..
And when u r genuinlely interested to be in a relation, someone might even give u superficial comments like-
"Yeh????? Tujhe yeh kaise pasand aa gaya???" etc etc.
sometimes it pisses u off..

It's after such bitter experiences that I have learnt to be secretive abt my private affairs.
U will see the reflection in my blog..no direct reference abt the present state of things

Whn things get publicized beyond a certain point, it begins to get out of hand..bcoz u will get all kind of different opinions, which, even if can't influence ur decision, leaves u embittered.

There was this guy I was dating that some of my close pals didn't like at all.. coz he was not social.. very much unlike me..
It took me some time to convince my frnds tht he is grt otherwise...
but thn I thought..y was I explaining?

It's important tht ur guy is liked by most of the ppl who matter to u..but then who actually matter to u..is for u to decide...
Parents top the list of course, but real frnds can also give an unbiased opinion.. and it goes a long way to predict the future of the relation..
No one can be a self-appointed guardian.

love sick said...

what would love be without these side effects/side thoughts...

the sweetness that her company adds to the tea..
the diffference that us has made to me
her giggle that resounds within the walls inside..
the color of love..the sky where you glide..

so same would be life with(out) love in material..
love on its own is nothing, is not real..
its the very stone that idiomatically made the soup..
life would be no easier with love aloof..

watch out..if nothing else it will give an excuse...
embrace love..its harmless.. even if it has no use..

Aparna Kar said...

@dc
unless and until she doesnt bring anything different in my life its no use...if that doesnt happen then today I am one lonely person and tomorrow we are two lonely people...

Agreed..
Someone told me..
"Opposites attract but they attract because the other person seems worth exploring and knowing..it's like u have not seen/met someone like that b4..so u wanna understand how he/she reacts and feels. u wanna know that part of life better"

I guess it explains a lot..

Ruchika said...

Ya, totally.. I was also dating a guy that my friends said was a great guy otherwise, but we were a disaster! And I chose not to bother about the many many opinions I got on that... but later when things actually didn't work out, I really didnt like all the 'I told you so' looks I got! So yes, if possible, its best not to let people meddle in your personal life beyond a point!

ankur said...

nice read. will catch up few lines while i refresh my search :p

Anonymous said...

am too naive to comment as i just did seomthing similar and it all ended in a hanging sword where its still not a yes but is a 'no' very subtly :(

Anonymous said...

Nice analysis.. seems u have a much deeper side to you than the common miniskirt adornig cigerette smoking modern day bharatiya nari. But cudn't agree with you beyond the point that it should be a DIALOGUE coz afaik when u have really found the right person u need not say the elementary stuffs... its understood.
As for me i think in relationships are very binary in nature, either you are THE ONE (not Neo :P), or u are NO ONE.

saurabh said...

So much of Debate... Guess its a topic close to every person

Aparna Kar said...

@Saurabh
Aren't most of my posts?
I don't write about rocket science..
only things that touch us in our everyday lives :)
coz tht's when I an be spontaneous...

The familiar stranger said...

Let's start with disaster..The level of fight u r gonna have depends at what stage the match is

Opp attract but they attract because the othr person seems worth explrng and knowing..its like u have not seen/met someone like that b4..so u wanna understand how he reacts and feels. u wanna know that part of life better

MORE THAN COMMON INTERESTS WHATS IMP IS TO allow the other person to pursue his intrsts..give him his personla space..
even if u dont have a commn intrst but u dont invade the persnl space of a guy it hardly matters to him whthr u share a commn intrst with him or not..


also on intrst wud add..there is no such thng as single intrst i feel...found ppl strugglng to come up with an ans when u ask whats ur hobby. Ask 10 ppl and only one will come with a prompt respns. I feel u can not have a single intrs. Its at differ times u have differ intrsts..

Sole reasn is abslty incorrect as far as am concerned..Happy is a state of mind. So to think that when u get into a relationship u wud have the brighter state of mind for rest of ur life is expctng too much. No matter u r in reltnshp or not u will have wild mood swings. So no reltn can make u happier than b4. Just an example one of the very true reltn in this world is that of a mother and child but still having a child will never make a mother happy for rest of life. She wud be happy initially then she wud have it as part of life and think of it as nothing supernatural. and when the signfnc dec. she will agn have mood swngs .


Reltnshp just 4 heck of it..see every1 wants to be in a reltnshp but very few r able to do so and getting into a reltnshp is like.
First time when u get into it its the curiosity . next time the human want to get somthng bettr. and so on. .. Reltnshp here is all that u go thru in ur life..dont take it as me propagatng too many BF's or GF,s..

Dialg is very true.

saurabh said...

Hate to admit it but i loath the word rocket science.

somehow everyone who wants to prove their point uses this, so its not against you but then again.. when you say arnt most of your posts are.. well think about it... again.. i leave it here for you to ponder upon your statement

saurabh said...

and even though i make grammatical mistakes and could be the worst comment writer in this whole list, i do what i can , but i dont say its rocket science, its just expressing my self

saurabh said...

all the last 3 comments were written in a state of extreme aggression and forward motion was implementing rocket science :P

Aparna Kar said...

@saurabh
did not know...a mere word can invoke such strong feelings..
"HATRED" is a big word...don't use it so wantonly

saurabh said...

hmm... ok Ms. Webster :) with an S ( smile, style, sensibility)

I agree and i got ur point...

vijay said...

Hi

I started reading your blogs, somehow you put into words what I can only think but cannot articulate. this was never more so prophetic than reading your blog. . .

here I am studying here supposedly knowing all this english and telugu, but in the end I know nothing!

good job anyways!!

vijay

Aye Davanita said...

Forgive me if I say something redundantly similar to someone else's comment above but I don't have the mental fortitude to read 43 ruddy comments!

Moving along - you're 'Cosmopolitan - Five ways to find true love' article is interesting albeit it leaves a very potent and dangerous aspect of relationships out. Ego.

Ego can singularly destroy what can be a sustainable relationship. I don't think I need to add further color to Ego's various forms and effects - we should all be aware - and if you find you're not aware..well - (guess who has an ego!)

What about mutual consent? Let me explain - what if two individuals, tired of seeking "true love" in its most altruistic form, decide to have a mutual respect for one another and settle down? - would you frown upon that? (I don't believe so...yet)

I've had conversations, both serious and humorous about arranged marriages vs. "lao" (love) marriages - and there are all sorts of pros and cons.

The question is - do you TRULY believe in the utopian picture you've drawn in this post? Or is it merely an aspiration of yours, to which your five "pointers" add simplicity?

puchku said...

And then all things said and done...as you all cannot avoid dying...as you all cannot change the fact that you are born....there are things where realisation does not suffice...where realisation does not change the outcome....You know that you have fallen in love only when you have fallen in it...and you would see with all your gray matter and selfconsciousness you have fallen in it...

It happens... nobody does it...just let it happen...don't ever try to make it happen...

Anonymous said...

Inside your husband's mind

Aparna Kar said...

@puchku
I am not prophesizing inducted love..
It's a natural process.. it just happens...
The 5-pointer was a part of my realization...
which I thought could be the criteria to choose your guy/gal.

In fact, I agree with Aye Davanita that mostly -"two individuals, tired of seeking "true love" in its most altruistic form, decide to have a mutual respect for one another and settle down" and it works out equally well..or maybe even better sometimes...
It's a mere fallacy to adjudge absolute parameters to know what's going on inside the other person's mind...like the site cited above....

Or those articles from the Cosmopolitan issues who give u "10 ways to cheat-proof ur relation"(though I know of an instance when a female actually caught her cheating guy after reading a Cosmo issue..lolz...) etc

I make no such claims.. even if the style of most of my posts is assertive, I am not keen to impose my views on anyone... the opinion is entirely mine.. u might agree or u might not...that's up to u..I want to know and that is why I have activated the comments section..

It might not be practically possible for me to cope with work pressure , studies..etc and then go for salsa classes wth my guy.. who probably lives half the globe away from me... but yeah..there's nothing wrong in wishing...

Aye Davanita said...

thats wonderful aparna. I agree with everything you say, except you have answered my question :-)

Do you, YOURSELF - subscribe to the "parameters" you've outlined? Or... wait - no. I'm not going to give you an option out - do you or do you not subscribe to the above? If not - then what DO you subscribe to?

Aparna Kar said...

In other words..what would my ideal match be like?...

Abhi and Nona said...

"Absence makes the heart grow fonder"

Yes and no... absence can be of merely the presence ... not of the communication. What is it that any relationship is all about? Talking ... communicating ... the physical aspect is only a part of it ... and I believe it fades away in the end after a decade or two ... which leaves you just the communication and the companionship part.

My wife and I actually met on internet and maintained a long-distance relationship for two years while I was in Japan. We chatted every day. For hours. It worked for us. I finally went to India for a year, when we were able to see each other more. Ended up marrying and then had to stay seperate again for almost half a year till I managed to get her here as well. And we have been on a continuing honeymoon ever since.

What if the communication was not that regular either? Can a relationship survive on the basis of mere memories? I doubt it. Memories and feelings, unless reinforced, eventually fade in intensity, as is their nature. So all in all ... it depends on what your concept of a long-distance relationship is. So yes... communication is a key.

The concept of "The One"... is just a concept. He/She doesn't exists beyond the scope of your mind... else your imagination would have to be fairly limited and lacking in ambition/desire :) ... what we really seek is completion. To have someone to care for, to protect, to love. And someone who returns all that.

My wife had a concept of "the one". He is currently working somewhere in USA, is around 5 years younger than me, earns about a gazillion dollars per month, isn't too handsome nor ugly, though looks much better than me. He goes to the gym every day, has muscles that would make the existing Mr. Universe surrender his title out of pure embarrassment. He owns his own company, and has a huge swimming pool in front of his house. He is a fantastic cook and has won many awards for it. He is well groomed and well-mannered. His photo gets published on the cover of The Times every month. His parents are preferrably either dead, or never existed, giving him one-up even over Jesus christ ... he is fantastic in every aspect ... sports, romance, personality. :p

Unfortunately my wife never found the unlucky chap, and she had to settle for just me. Someone who doesn't knows how to cook. And doesn't keeps the house clean... And snores while he sleeps.

Is she unhappy? Well ... we have fights ... we argue ... and at the end of the day, she tells me she is lucky to have me in her life. And I feel the same.

We wouldn't have it any other way.

Aparna Kar said...

@ abhi and mona
Awww!! That's so sweet!!
Seems like a fairy tale..nevertheless..true..
I guess there are others as well who are struggling to keep a relation alive..even though miles apart geographically..
You said it ..the keyword is "communication"..I might have 1001 friends I meet everyday, I go out with or spend some major chunk of my time..but there might be just one person, talking to whom just makes my day...

I do not know what it takes to keep the faith alive, but there's one thing I believe- if u really want to be with someone, you get the strength to materialize that dream into reality.
It's the possibility of having a dream come true that makes life interesting.

My ideal man is not that difficult to find :)
-He cooks decently well:P
-Plays the keyboard once in a while..and composes serenades for me :)
-Loves it when I sing for him
-Treats me like his best friend..
-Doesn't mind shopping with me ..at least online :P
-Does not give excuses. Gives reasons if he fails to do something
-Doesn't need to say "I love u" too often..but I can feel it in his voice everytime we talk
-Doesn't say "We lose control of what's happening to us, coz our lives is controlled by fate." In fact he is an absurdist.
-Is my source of strength..just like I am his :)

A kid said...

HOW DO YOU DECIDE WHOM TO MARRY?
You got to find somebody who likes the same stuff. Like, if you like sports, she should like it that you like sports, and she should keep the chips and dip coming.
-- Alan, age 10

No person really decides before they grow up who they're going to marry. God decides it all way before, and you get to find out later who you're stuck with.
-- Kristen, age 10

WHAT IS THE RIGHT AGE TO GET MARRIED?
Twenty-three is the best age because you know the person FOREVER by then.
-- Camille, age 10

HOW CAN A STRANGER TELL IF TWO PEOPLE ARE MARRIED?
You might have to guess, based on whether they seem to be yelling at the same kids.
-- Derrick, age 8

WHAT DO YOU THINK YOUR MOM AND DAD HAVE IN COMMON?
Both don't want any more kids.
-- Lori, age 8

WHAT DO MOST PEOPLE DO ON A DATE?
Dates are for having fun, and people should use them to get to know each other. Even boys have something to say if you listen long enough.
-- Lynnette, age 8 (isn't she a treasure)

On the first date, they just tell each other lies and that Usually gets them interested enough to go for a second date.
-- Martin, age 10

WHAT WOULD YOU DO ON A FIRST DATE THAT WAS TURNING SOUR?
I'd run home and play dead. The next day I would call all the newspapers and make sure they wrote about me in all the dead columns.
-- Craig, age 9

WHEN IS IT OKAY TO KISS SOMEONE?
When they're rich.
-- Pam, age 7 (smart girl)

The law says you have to be eighteen, so I wouldn't want to mess with that.
- - Curt, age 7

The rule goes like this: If you kiss someone, then you should marry them and have kids with them. It's the right thing to do.
-- Howard, age 8

IS IT BETTER TO BE SINGLE OR MARRIED?
It's better for girls to be single but not for boys. Boys need someone to clean up after them.
-- Anita, age 9 (bless you child)

HOW WOULD THE WORLD BE DIFFERENT IF PEOPLE DIDN'T G ET MARRIED?
There sure would be a lot of kids to explain, wouldn't there?
-- Kelvin, age 8

And the #1 Favorite is........
HOW WOULD YOU MAKE A MARRIAGE WORK?
Tell your wife that she looks pretty, even if she looks like a truck.
-- Ricky, age 10

the alchemist said...

And, when you want something, all the universe conspires in helping you to achieve it.

Anonymous said...

interesting blog

Anonymous said...

I know , we cant just comment interesting blog or post or comments .. we have to add something from our side to this in the name of creativity ;) So here goes another effort of mine.

Pyar has lots of side effects.
from Elation to Despair
from Wayordness to Commitment
But the most important one is Heart Attacks...
The number of time all the guyz will say mere dil ki tumhi dhadkan ho.... Well agar aisa wakai mai ho gaya to ladke to mar hi jaenge cos girls are always hyper :P
( Though girls love this line, even if they call it cheesy on ur face)

Mere saansoon mai tum basi ho... Phir panga.. agar kabhi ladke ne ciggi pi li to bechari ladki us dhuen mai mar jaegi, kyunki saanso mai jo basi hai.. par ye line bhi janab copyright of guyz hai.

Aur last and the best
mai jism aur tum jaan ho..
Well ye bahut acchi baat hai.. par ye jaan jo har 6 mahine mai badalti hai ( aisa lagta hai ki guyz log jaan ke shikari hai) par kehte zaroor hai.. jaan ho..


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par pyar nibhaya soch samajh kar jaata hai... warna saari pyari stories yaa to ultra successful hoti ya phir.. dissapointing..

Aparna Kar said...

@saurabh
Thank Gawd! All love stories don't work out..
There was a time when I thought I can't live without a certain person, days passed and I realized it was only a perception.
And perceptions can change.

I didn't get what point u were trying to prove with your apparent creativity..
All I could understand is that guys say a lot of things to prove their undying love for the "girl-oh-ma-dreamz"
when they win her confidence, they begin to take things lightly
In ideal romance, the chase should never end.

And as far as those 6-month old relations are concerned, I don't care much for them..
It's not necessary that every relation which could have an end should achieve an end.

Tarruf (introduction) rog ban jaye to usko bhulna behtar
Talluk (relation) bhojh ban jaye to usko todna achha
Woh afsana jisey takmil(destination) tak lana na ho mumkin-
Usey ek khoobsurat mod dekar chhorna accha


Samjhey? Nahi samjhey?
Samajh jaogey...

Anonymous said...

my fingers r itchin to reply but.. naaa.. acche mod par chod dete hain... ;)

Aparna Kar said...

She spent the first day packing her belongings into
boxes, crates and suitcases. On the second day, she
had the movers come and collect her things. On the
third day, she sat down for the last time at their
beautiful dining room table by candlelight, put on
some soft background music and feasted on a pound of
shrimp, a jar of caviar and a bottle of Chardonnay.
When she had finished, she went into each and every
room and depositeda Few half-eaten shrimp dipped in
caviar, into the hollow of thecurtain rods. She then
cleaned up the kitchen and left. When the husband
returned with his new girlfriend, all was bliss forthe
first few days. Then slowly, the house began to smell.
They tried everything; cleaning, mopping and airing
the place out. Vents were checked for dead rodents and
carpets were steamed. Air Fresheners were hung
everywhere. Exterminators were brought in to set off
gas canisters, during which they had to move out for a
few days, and in the end even paid to replace the
expensive wool carpeting. Nothing worked. People
stopped coming over to visit. Repairmen refused to
work in the house. The maid quit. Finally, they could
not take the stench any longer and decided to move. A
month later, even though they had cut their price in
half, theycould not find a buyer for their stinky
house. Word got out and eventually even the local
realtors refused to return their calls. Finally, they
had to borrow a huge sum of money from the bank
topurchase a new place. The ex-wife called the man and
asked how things were going. He toldher the saga of
the rotting house. She listened politely and said
thatshe missed her old home terribly, and would be
willing to reduce herdivorce settlement in exchange
for getting the house back. Knowing his ex-wife had no
idea how bad the smell was, he agreed on a Price that
was about 1/10th of what the house had been worth, but
only if she were to sign the papers that very day. She
agreed and within the hour his lawyers delivered the
paperwork. A week later the man and his girlfriend
stood smiling as they watched the moving company pack
everything to take to their new home....
.......including the curtain rods.

I LOVE A HAPPY ENDING, DON'T YOU?????

Ritesh Mishra said...

pretty sensible, down to earth yet with that falliabilty and fragileness, life entails. Well said. Good job !!.

sudhir said...

Was good article to know about girl thought process.Keep posting