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Monday, April 21, 2008

Life is transient, and happiness?

We have often heard :The only thing we know about the future is that it will be different. I don't need to defend the verity of the statement, but it intrigues me how some things never change.

I remember that as a kid, amidst others toys, I had a favorite- a talking Barbie; and like most other gifts from my father, I was extremely possessive about it. Often, I'd share my toys with other kids when they came home. But I'd never let go off that particular doll. I was probably scared that someone else wouldn't take good care of it , as much as I did, and would spoil it.

Now, when I look back, a talking bimbo with a voice chip seems like a dumb thing to invest emotions in. And though I still treasure the toys I had as a kid, I don't think I would mind giving them away to someone. But yeah, I would still expect them to take good care of something I was so attached to.

In the broader realm of relation dynamics, and without oversimplifying things, I would like to say that I can see a parallel. You come across someone you really like until you feel that it is time to let go. Sometimes because the circumstances demand so, but mostly owing to your own free will - the urgency to get ahead with life and the inability to carry on with an emotional burden while traveling fast.

You would like to see that individual happy and you would expect, quite naturally, that you find your own happiness too. However, you take care to direct it more inward now, conscious of the possibility of losing an external source of your well-being again.

The world to me seems like a huge playground; we are all kids picking up a bright colorful toy, draping it up in pretty clothes, hugging it and believing it belongs to us. Reality is, when the game gets over, you have to leave it behind.

Once I told someone that we are all nomads traveling around the world, stacking up the paraphernalia at one place, buying and selling dreams, resting for a while and then getting ready to get going on our respective itineraries again.

But somewhere, there has to be a certainty in all the uncertainties? A constant among all the variables? How do you put it across, when faced with the paucity of your own expression?

20 comments:

ILA(a)இளா said...

//The world to me seems like a huge playground,//
//Reality is, that when the game gets over, you have to leave it behind. //

Contrary, Games sometime plays with us, we usually call it as survival. :)

Aparna Kar said...

@ILA(a)இளா
Well said ! Bravo. I like the twist in your words, the way you interpret it and the honesty in admittance. Nevertheless, I believe that things don't simply happen to us, we bring them unto ourselves. Believing so gives life a little more dignity- doesn't it? Also, we learn to be more responsible for our own actions.

Anonymous said...

Over the years, you have come across a blogger with a delectable wit and charm, however ever so often you go in a brooding phase, which reflects in the flow of your posts which are of a serious nature, more of an introspection.

Life and it's uncertainties are something that you can't prepare yourself for, they are bound to happen, without you or anyone around you having a clue about it. As far as search for the constant goes, look no further than yourself, you know what's best for you and what you think is paucity of emotions can also be read as an iron willed determination to surge ahead no matter what.

Bad Wulf

Aparna Kar said...

I'll refrain from editing your comment, though the subject-verb (dis)agreement is making my hand itch. :P

It isn't paucity of emotions; it never has been. I was referring to my inability to express what I want to. Anyways, I think I know what I truly seek, and I believe that I am moving towards it. Ad lucem.

candid diary said...

A constant among all the variables?
OK, here is something from Isaac Asimov: The only constant is change, continuing change, inevitable change that is the dominant factor in society today. No sensible decision can be made any longer without taking into account not only the world as it is, but the world as it will be.
Since you have become very sombre about change, relax and have a change here.

Munmun said...

A constant among all variables could be anything. It could be a person - a partner, a sibling, a spouse, a friend; anyone. It could be one's dreams. It could be one's hobbies, e.g. a painter , a photographer, an artist. It could be one's passions, e.g. gardening. It could even be making someone else happy :)
Life has so much to look forward to. Even if we lose one toy in that playground, life often awaits another toy sometime somewhere :)
Nice post !

Aparna Kar said...

@Munmun
Well put ! Thanks for understanding wjhat I wanted to say.
Btw, the version of the toy only gets better if you ask me ;)

Aparna Kar said...

@candid diary
Sombre? Kabhi nahi. Will view that link soon, but I'll admit that when I reach a level of stagnancy, my heart aches for some change ! :P

ILA said...

Aparna,
are u doing philosophy in school?

Aparna Kar said...

@ILA
Lol. Philosophy and MBA? I don't think they go together. But faith and business might; 'cause at the end, it's all about the relations we build, and the values we instill- not the deals we make. My marketing Professor often says that studying the religions of the world makes us understand business (and consumer behavior, of course) better. I couldn't have agreed more.

Munmun said...

I guess yeah, the next toy is often the better one, because it makes our life more beautiful :) in some manner :)

Aparna Kar said...

@munmun
Guess so :) Life should rise to a higher datum plane of existence ideally. And if the bias-free honest truth in absolute terms is " I am happier", in every possible way, then nothing better :)

Saurabh said...

wish i could add something to the discussion but I am too burnt out from my day's excursions.
Other than the blurb of nice post

candid diary said...

OK, Ma'm! If you grab some time please go through this video also:
Change is Unavoidable

Aparna Kar said...

@candid diary
Lol. Poor soul. Had I been that guy with the camera, I'd have picked that chap up blocking the view, and thrown him into the pool. Anyways, walking up to that girl and talking to her was a much better choice than being a voyeur and trying to click a picture. Sheesh! Some men never learn. Change or no change.

Aparna Kar said...

@candid diary
LOL, I just saw the previous ad now.. Quite a different message, in terms of product attributes, from one of my favorite Camlin ads here

Ann said...

This is one of the best reflective essays I have seen over these days. Please keep up the good work.

Bubbles of FireWhiskey said...

i shall second ann... and i guess change is the only constant in life... the difference is in the way that we handle it individually... and the survival is only ever of the fittest...

Sam said...

If you take a look at it.. it is our emotions which tend to bog us down. and teh constant that you seek in a sea of uncertainties, i believe is hard to find. I mean, take a look around you.. every thing is undergoing a change... they have to...
you may say that change is a constant, but then is it change that you are going to anchor to in your darkest of hours....
or may be it is teh self.. that stays constant... cocooned safely in the depths of our bloated egos which refuse to let us take failure in our stride..a dn eggs us on to more and more successful platforms of life....
jeez.. am i making sense.. i dunno.. but i do hope the point gets across!!
cheerio...

Aparna Kar said...

There's something I think that does reply to my query:
Jaate hue rahi ke kadmo se liptna kya,
Ek pal ke musafir ke saaye me simtna kya,
Aate hue kadmo se jaate hue kadmo tak bhari rahegi rahguzar,
Jo tham gaye to jindagi kya