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Saturday, June 11, 2005

Growing up...

I had always believed maturity means accepting myself as I am.
Over the years I have learnt it also includes being involved in everything and yet being detached.Let nothing effect my inner peace.
I had once told one of my friends"I am too determined to be happy to give life a chance to make me sad" when he had asked "How's life treating you?"
I was too young then to comprehend the completeness of my own statement..now the world is a little more my own..and I am glad I was right.
It is not the great things that make us happy.It is the small moments...the trifles that go a long way to contribute to our overall well-being
How often do we waste our valuable time in musing over an unkind word at college/workplace from a classmate/colleague or an unfeeling lecturer/boss.At traffic signals shouting at every moron who is driving faster or every idiot who is honking the horn behind ??
If we could take an effort each day to make ourselves happy -
Wake up in the morning and flash a smile at the mirror even if we looked like the Third world war has just ended.Smile at an infant's toothless grin.Pat the pet more often.
Stare at a wild flower growing by the hedge for a moment longer.

Happiness comes from within.We should stop looking for it.

I don't prophesise the idea of being just a passive observer n let life make its way..be an active participant..be a storming river..torrent,energitic -breaking down all obstacles that block ur way...taking along with it or leaping over it but never stopping....

Give ur best efforts but don't expect..I am not asking u to attain some stage of sainthood...but take care to make the journey ur pleasure.

Success is an ever extending horizon.When we have reached somewhere, we set forth newer goals n programme ourselves to concentrate our efforts in achieving them.
It is unending.Such is the human nature.

So,wouldn't it be justice to ourselves if at the end of the day we look back n feel glad about not only having reached somewhere but having chosen the path we have?

Meander if u must.As long as ur centripetal force is working u'll never go astray..n that force is probably the values we have imbibed..certain principles which eventually become our guiding rules.But be flexible.There are always exceptions to the rules.

U know u r on a learning curve if every mistake u make is a new one.
Respect urself for what u r.

Had I been given a chance to live life all over again I'll make the same mistakes just to ensure that I evolve to be the person I am now.It is not vanity,It is self-love.
Some might think what use is it anyway?

I will ask-how can u offer to someone else what u don't urself have?

And most importantly..never kill the child in u..let it be curious,let it demand answers,let it explore n let it fool about.

11 comments:

Guru said...

cannt agree u with u more!! keep up the spirit..

Sagar Neel De said...

Bhaktgan,
Abhi aap par rahe thay Parampujya MAA Aparna ke suwachan. Aj ke liye itna hi. Aj mein ASTHAA CHANNEL ke liye aapse bida leta huun.
-Subhratri


You expected me to write this??? I wrote it..... Happy NOW

And NOW let me write what I actually want to. What should I say now... another reflection of myself, you took my thoughts, Life moves ON. Well life moves on............. it really moves on......... I suppose you got it what I want to stress upon. We forget the broken glasses.DON'T WE ???

To say you, I loved three statements ...

1. I am too determined to be happy to give life a chance to make me sad (I suppose I'm in love with the statement)

2. Happiness comes from within.We should stop looking for it. (Did you meant only happiness ?)

3. never kill the child in u (...and most importantly,never stop writing and informing me. OK)

Uff onek kicchu likhechi .......I've nothing more to say.

Ayondeep said...

"Over the years I have learnt it also includes being involved in everything and yet being detached"
- Resonates some shlok of Gita.

You seem to have found your inner voice or some people call it the spirit within. Great job, if its true.
I do not know whats going to happen to your spiritual life, but if you continue to write like this you will surely get a pulitzer someday.
Well done. Nice blog.

anuj said...

Bits & pieces is what u have in ur life, and if ur living those twinkling little moments with the thought : "I am too determined to be happy to give life a chance to make me sad", i think thats the best possible one can get out of his life.

continue living happily.......

anuj said...

hey dear, would u check out my blog. I guess nobody is readin it. So pathetic of me & my writings. it may not be that good, but still do pass comments for improvement.

Ok bye

Aparna Kar said...

@Anuj
Will read your posts as soon as I squeeze some decent amount of time.

@GT
Thanks :-)

@SND
I'll confess I was in a GYAANDAAN mode when I was writing this.But I didn't know a better way to express myself .The approach might not have been right...

BTW that reminds me..I wanted to denounce SANSARIC MOHO when I was about 16 years old(in Xth standard)n become a nun

I was very much fascinated by the idea of having solitude to ponder over things and be able to propagate virtuous ideas and spend most of my time in prayer.

Then my Dad n Mashi made me realise that's not a very holy world out there..corruption is everywhere and I might feel frustrated at the end of it.

I had to drop the idea for sometime..but u never know..I might someday be delivering a sermon in Asthaa TV.Clad in a white overall and Rudrakhs..mmm..don't tempt me...I have to begin to like the idea again...

the same old guy said...

ok,u've grown up.
and too bad u don allow non-blogspot guys to comment.anyways,u can come down to steepcurves.rediffblogs.com.tc..

anuj said...

hi Aparna. u have been tagged by me. If u havent been before, then its by me. And the format goes like this :

1.THREE NAMES YOU GO BY:
2.THREE SCREEN NAMES YOU HAVE HAD:
3.THREE PHYSICAL THINGS YOU LIKE ABOUT YOURSELF:
4.THREE PHYSICAL THINGS YOU DON'T LIKE ABOUT YOURSELF:
5.THREE PARTS OF YOUR HERITAGE :
6.THREE THINGS THAT SCARE YOU:
7.THREE OF YOUR EVERYDAY ESSENTIALS:
8.THREE THINGS YOU ARE WEARING RIGHT NOW:
9.THREE THINGS YOU WANT IN A RELATIONSHIP:
10.TWO TRUTHS AND A LIE (in no particular order):

11.THREE PHYSICAL THINGS ABOUT THE OPPOSITE SEX THAT APPEAL TO YOU:
12.THREE THINGS YOU WANT TO DO REALLY BADLY RIGHT NOW:
13.THREE CAREERS YOU'RE CONSIDERING:
14.THREE PLACES YOU WANT TO GO ON VACATION:
15.THREE KIDS NAMES YOU LIKE:
16.THREE THINGS YOU WANT TO DO BEFORE YOU DIE:
17.THREE PEOPLE WHO HAVE TO TAKE THIS QUIZ NOW:


See thats the format. Theres nothing personal. What u have to do is pt these in a post . May be u might have read somebodies blog regarding this.
May be through this i will know u better.

manish said...

i am besotted by this sentence "I am too determined to be happy to give life a chance to make me sad "

Am Not Who U Think I Am said...

What if the self realization is tougher thn learning japanese...n tht u hav been searchin for the same for the past five years in ur life...is it worth the wai8...or is it tht we hav to accept the way we are which is the boring person who does nothing but tht he supposed to do take on life as it comes.. go with flow...which sounds more easier thn tryin to discover the real urself.....if u wanna make a change for ur own...its harder..in a world were u get paid 20000 permonth for workin in a software company...thts easier thn try to discover urself...which is easier?....self discovery is far from gettin discovered for me

Am Not Who U Think I Am said...

kudos to all ur posts...the level of writin is exceptional...just came across it today....bye