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Thursday, December 01, 2005

L'amour fait Le Monde tourner

We all are seemingly self-sufficient..but we all need an emotional anchor.
Amidst all those major crushes,short flings and torrid affairs...we are seeking only one element-Happinesss.

But we are so unsure of our priorities that we end up,most of the times,looking in the wrong places...
It's like chasing the end of a rainbow to find where a treasure is buried...

My take on human relations is something of the philosophy that is reflected in one of my fav. poems-"Porosh pathor" (meaning-The Philosopher's stone) by Tagore

It's the story of a man who gives up wordly pleasure and turns into a sage in the quest of the mythed Philospher's stone which has the Alchemical properties to turn anything into gold....

The man(in the poem) after years of search comes to know that the stone is lying by a sea-shore...he spends another few years of his life testing each stone...touching it with a piece of metal he has in his hand...to see if it can turn it to gold...
Each time it fails he throws the stone away- detested... picks again..tries another...throws it away

It is a long stretch of shore...and there are plenty of pebbles and stones
Years pass in a blurr...he grows a longer beard...his clothes become more ragged..his eyes almost visionless...all his mental faculties engaged in a pursuit which seems endless.

One day while he is mechanically testing the stones that lay in the path stretched ahead...a child playing by the shore says..."Baba,what is it shining in ur hand?"

He looks back and to his exhilaration finds the piece of iron he was clutching in his hand has turned to gold!!
He tests it with the stone he was holding then ...to back test it...but it shows no response...then he picks another he had abandoned before...and another he had thrown away...all prove to be duds..

Then suddenly a piercing realisation dawns on him...in his craze and disappointment with the previous rocks..he had cast away the real thing ... never realising it had the power to transform

And somewhere on the path that lay behind him,there rested what he had valued more than anything in this world...

But he was not to give up...
He turned back to revisit the path he had treaded...to find again...what he had found and ....lost...

The poem ends with those haunting lines

"Ordhek jibon khuji Kon khone chokhhu bujhii
Sporsho lobhechhilo jar ek pol bhor

Baaki ordho bhogno praan Abaar koreche daan
Phiriya khujite sei Porosh pathor
"

Something which very grossly put means-(Sorry Tagore-for my ' lacking in art..but passionate in essence ' translation)

Having searched the half of his life In a moment of closed perceptions(sight)

The touch of which he had felt just for an instance

The remaining half of his now broken existence ,He has dedicated
To turn to look again for that philosopher's stone...

16 comments:

Aparna Ganguly said...

Have u ever wondered when u looked around on an autumn evening...the leaves with a golden hue make u wish there were someone to share it with u?
If u have ...probably u know why...

I agree it's not tough to be tough...
But sometimes u just wish...

Aparna Ganguly said...

And anyways my fovcus ofa ttention is not WHY we feel we need a relation...but about being in a relation with the right person..

Being single is definately better than being in a relation just for the heck of it...but that's a different story altogether...and a blog is hardly a place to discuss it..will talk about it later..

BTW thanks..it was while talking to u the other day .I came up with this idea...wanted to write something like this for a long time now..

jsjv said...

hi, i also think that ppl want to be in a relationship but still want the freedom of being single. they want to do whatever they used to do while being single. according to me, we need to lose some to gain some, only then we'd be able to truly appreciate the relationship.

Aparna Ganguly said...

@Jasjiv...
Not always...u stray in a relation only when there's something terribly wrong...
An apparently perfect relation might have loopholes which u or me are completely unaware of...

And anyways...it requires some effort from the other person as well to make u feel wanted...
U "act" like u r single only when u "feel" u r...

Isn't it?

Aparna Ganguly said...

@Saurabh

See! There u r!

If we can say "I am hungry" or "I am sleepy"

Why can we say..."I could do with some more love"?

Saket said...

Hi Aparna!

My first visit to your blog. Excellent post. Keep blogging!

Saket

Aparna Ganguly said...

@Saket
Thanks:)
Keep posting ur comments..
They are valueable...

Aparna Ganguly said...

@Saurabh
Hmmm..difficult..isn't it?
We don't know what we actually want until we have lost it...
And the search continues...even if u think...somewhere ...while groping blindly..we might have chanced upon the real thing..

Probably coz we are always looking for the perfect person..
not an imperfect person whom we can love perfectly..
Now Before things become too mushy..I 'll stop here...
C Ya...
keep posting

Aparna Ganguly said...

@Saurabh

I don't agree.6 months might be the Honeymoon time for any relation but the more time u spend together,the more it matures..the foundation gets stronger..
anyways..no one is perfect..n u knew it in the beginning

I have seen my parents...been married for 27 years..courted 3 yrs b4 that..n they are still very much in love with each other..

Rather more than the time they saw each other for the first time...What would u say to that?

Aparna Ganguly said...

@Saurabh

Honestly?
I don't think Love can be obsolete ever...

It's only a matter of realisation...

Just like I said before..if we stop looking for the perfect person..we might actually come across someone who is not so perfect..but whom we can love perfectly well

Abhi! said...

Hi,
Happened to chance upon your blog!
Personally, there are two types of relationships, one in which both the partners know that they are having fun/committed long term in which there are not many problems. Atleast, nothing of having someone as an "emotional anchor" because they have each other or they can just talk to any close friend (in case of having fun). The other kind is when one of them is serious and the other is having fun! This is where all problems arise.
Personally, I would remain single 'cos I feel that it gives one more freedom, not having to adjust schedules to coincide with your partner, not having to call someone ten times a day etc..

I don't know how much of what I said made sense but what I am trying to say is that an "emotional anchor" can be any person and not necessarily a girlfriend/boyfriend.

Aparna Ganguly said...

@ Abhi
I never said it ahs to be a GF/BF too

Anybody can be an emotional anchor...n if u ask me..frns are beter at it

Aparna Ganguly said...

@ Saurabh....

Let's hope so...

Aparna Ganguly said...

@Rony
U got me thinking...hmmmm

Aparna Ganguly said...

@Arun
Thanks..:)
Needless to say..coming from YOU..
Someone who thinks I am extremely supercilious with my sole raison d'etre to accomplish a couple of mass homicidal missions..it came as a pleasant surprise...[:P]

Wud be looking forward to seeing more to ur registering ur presence in my little space here..
[:)]

And yes..don't forget to read between the lines..sometimes I dnt understand what I scribble..maybe U cud say...(I am serious)

Kiran said...

wow...supereb....its tough to find happiness...it just happens....sometimes we just miss the chances...sometimes..we